Struggle to Forgive Others

How to forgive people who do wrong with us?
How to forgive and tolerate ourselves for the mistakes done in the past?

The potential to do the greatest emotional damage is people who are the closest.

People on the street don't hurt as much as someone who is very close to you.

Therefore when we talk about people doing something to us, forgiveness is again only possible with the memory good things that have been done to us.

And there have been good things that have been done to us and I am NOT saying this is genetic principle again in applying this will vary case to case because the hurt that is done is so deep.

Sometimes you just can't find any good.

probably no, I can't pick that phone. No I don't push like that my just a joke, just the humorous side.

But you know tolerance, forgiveness all of this it's possible my good memory only.

And if we talked about tolerating people its not all that hard to tolerate when we see that they also tolerate us.

Keeping this fact in cognisance and in conscious awareness of our lives makes us handle people because we know that no one is perfect, no one in this world is perfect.

Everyone comes with a package deal, there is good and the bad.

We should focus on the good and deal with the bad, we should deal with it.

If there is something wrong, we should deal with it, sort out, whatever we have to do we should deal with it focus on the good and deal with the bad is the way we work on it.

And when we follow this principle then I think the second part of your question was about tolerating yourself and for giving yourself.

That's little hard for a lot of people because you know, this kind of mind keeps hovering over this things, mistakes that we make, but we just to learn and move on.

In one of my tux I did that, what I did is a took a pencil, pull a pencil out, and I break the pencil, right in front of everyone. And that's what life does to us, relationships are like that sometimes, life situations are like that.

Failures are like that, is a break us, they crack us, sometimes our own mistakes, we just punished ourselves so much and get broken internally, and van I pull out a sharpener take the other half and start shopping it.

Brake, that's not the end of it isn't it? Yes we have made mistakes, yes we have had our week moments, yes we had slips in our minds and in our lives, doesn't matter. What really matters is we should stand up, gather ourselves up and fight again.